My Response

I still cannot process what has happened here. Nothing makes any sense.

WHY is he in such a hurry to get this divorce?
WHY does he get to say that we are broken beyond repair when he's not willing to work with me to fix us?
WHY doesn't he love me enough to try?

Here's what I wish I'd said at the time:

There are many things you said and did last night that I'm sure someday I will wish I had circled back to and had an actual discussion about. And to be honest, there are several things which I may not actually move past. And it obviously doesn't even matter any more.

But when you said that you had hoped things would be better??? I'm confused how I would ever know that. You ignore me, except to send curt texts. We haven't lived in the same place for months. You don't talk to me about anything and you make decisions without my input. You don't ever indicate that you are unhappy, or that you wanted things to be better. And if that is the case, WHAT HAVE YOU DONE TO TRY AND MAKE THINGS BETTER?

You're mad at me for many things apparently and yet you don't actually talk to me or ask me. You simply blame and belittle. I was actually prepared for you to ask for a divorce at some point because I have had two friends of ours (who don't know each other) tell me that you told them we were getting a divorce. That feels great... thanks. And when you finally have the courage to tell me yourself, it's in a text. A TEXT. While you're sitting in the next room. A text which includes plans you have clearly already made and discussions you have already had with your brother.

There are many things I could say, and probably more than a few that I should say. But you made it abundantly clear that you just want to divide it all up and be done. And I just can't even right now. 

We have been together for 33 YEARS, and married for almost 28 of those. And you just want to throw it all away. I'm not gonna lie, that makes me sad. And wildly disappointed. In us. But mostly in you.